The Right Age |
The perfect age to have a child is one adequately talked over topic. Though some how the debate never seizes to end.
While growing up listening to Olivia Newton-John to Britney Spears these days women have wider range of cultural practices than ever before. The debate might rage on but the present day mothers may not accept the logic against this.
The ‘ageism’ stood out as the most prominent in this topic. According to a recent survey conducted by a well known magazine regarding this topic displayed for the very first time about this factor. Among the 15,000 responders of the survey that dealt the topic of younger and the elder mothers 35 percent was 24 or lesser. Among the rest 30 percent was 40 or elder and the rest was stuck between.
The salient feature that stood out is the detailed discussion that the topic received. It wasn’t restricted in the questions and answered rather the pros and cons of having a child at different phases of life. The page—long dissertations on the topic described about the segregation that they suffered from other mothers with some of them almost raving.
According to National Vital Statistics Report of 2003 in U.S. the age for the first child is 25.2. Although according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention this number is in rise at present. For instance in 1970 the average stood at a small 21.4.
Thus the vicissitude feature that this phenomenon has isn't one recent news. A sequence of social, medical progress over the past 50 years, followed with the women's rights movement has assisted the phenomenon to reach this extent. Pill, infertility medicine, in vitro impregnation, freezing procedure of egg and embryo — the list is continual. The steady extension of the age at which women can, if concerned enough become mothers has been the shining instance of all these.
However the area that hasn’t been investigated is the support and connection that different categories of mother have for each other.
If the polarizing feature which always accompanies us, is kept away the topic can always stood out for a better discussion. It isn’t related with the younger versus elder as it’s always assumed. Although the fact always remains that this is the particular avoidable aspect that fills the environment whenever the topic is raised. While both sides hurl weapons it’s the allegedly elder moms who were more unforgiving. According to this survey 36 percent of younger moms blamed the elders for incriminating them as immature and inexperienced to handle such a critical phase.
The fact that a walloping number of 54 percent of older mother actually supports this speaks the extent of the problem.According to one such younger mother when she picked up her daughter from daycare other older mothers continued to look her up and down and made up excuses for not being able to arrange play dates with her.
Another aged 24 from New York experiences the prejudice, too. She actually ran into older mothers who assumed that she was an awful parent because of the age. She said that it’s never tough to tell what they were thinking, she continued.
While the debate goes on it’s noticed that the youngers felt the heat more simply because olders are capable of taking more decision. However that never actually denotes that youngers can’t be wise decision takers. |
A Critical Struggle |
The problem of sharing the news of pregnancy with someone who is suffering from pregnancy problems is an acute dilemma.
To face this dilemma one needs to be uncomplicated. Not sharing the news with one’s best friend won’t resolve the problem. Later when friend would be finding the news out it won’t certainly left s friendly attitude regarding that rather ‘secretive friend’. This would be totally contemptible of your esteem and closeness.
Thus most likely this shouldn’t be the result to look for.
What is more necessary is, presumably to evade hurting a very close friend. In this situation, one needs to have more courage and accept the responsibility of ‘spilling the beans’ by herself.
If it’s continued to be hidden then the friend would remind rather the ‘not so courageous’ trait of you. This could damage the relationship in a lifelong basis.
The question then might be raised about the procedures for undertaking the task. It’s a case for sensitivity. For example try to go on with the announcement when no one is around. This would actually offer much more option to her, as well for coping up with the situation much more courageously. The reactions on her part won’t be an artificial one as she doesn’t have to hide anything from anyone around.
Even the option of sharing the news over the telephone could be considered since that would allow her to hide the emotions. The quick wrapping up of the conversation would as well be on the cards.
Let her know that there is one noteworthy news. Don’t say it as big, exciting news. Nothing other than significant news should be stated. After this don't anticipate her to jump in utmost joy. Similarly, tell that after judging the relationship’s significance that you would never hide something like this.
There's no other way.
The discussion would progress in a rough path. However this is the only one that should be taken. The friend and the friendship are the most vital matters. It’s more potent than actually thought.
With the best friend one can be literally convinced that she would be pleased in the news. Ultimately, that perhaps was being the ultimate aim.
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| Birth Control; Diverse Ways |
Planning in any scheme stays as one prime reason to get success. The story in family planning isn’t any different, too. Thus the ways for effective family planning is essential for every parent. |
One of the most effective ways is breastfeeding. The husband and wife when prepared to initiate the effort for their second child should have a clear idea about the process. The possibility of getting pregnant while the wife continues to nurture their 15-month-old son is one often raised question. |
Though unaware to many the breastfeeding functions as one natural birth control. |
Elaborating the matter further the experts say that the breastfeeding can hold back ovulation and thus work as an effective type of birth control. At the time of breastfeeding those similar hormones which produces milk known as prolactin, hold back the releasing of hormones causing eggs to become matured, as well. These hormones cause eggs to grow—up to be fertile and shaping of womb to nurture fertile eggs, as well. |
This reason actually causes the breastfeeding mothers generally notice a holdup of the returning of their menstrual periods. This holdup is known as lactation amenorrhea or LAM. It might be the nature's method of saying that one baby is all the body can grip for the time being. This stresses about the hazards for another child right then. As a usual way of birth control, the effectiveness of LAM can be as high as 98%. |
Here, it can be remembered that the artificial processes, as well have a near about success rate regarding this matter. |
Although for having an effective result the following practices are necessarily to be pursued: - |
1) Frequency: - frequent and unrestricted breastfeeding for the keeping the milk level high for enabling hormones more effective to hold back fertility hormones, is necessary. This generally means breastfeeding at least every two to three hours throughout the day or as per the baby’s necessity. |
2) Night nurse: - fertility hormones are at the highest during sleeping hours thus it's vital to keep the milk—making hormones high even at night, too. For suppressing of ovulation at night it’s necessary to keep the nursing baby just beside the mother. Since the babies generally breastfeed more often during night this procedure would be of immense help. |
Once the baby begins to sleep throughout the night the fertility hormones invade and breastfeeding would no longer possibly lead to natural child spacing. Therefore if the habit of sleeping throughout the night is practiced by the baby then the fertility would be returning soon. |
Evading auxiliary bottles and pacifiers is another good idea in this goal. For keeping the concerned hormones high enough for suppressing the ovulation it's necessary that the sucking be at the breast rather than somewhere else. |
By following these steps we hope that all the parents interested in making ‘child spaces’ would come out as successful.
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